By David & Amy Ensminger
Whether you are in a committed relationship or have been married for 50 years, the sure-fire way to create intimacy is to do something together! They are not just for one mate to do – build intimacy with your mate by handling all the details of the one you are initiating for your relationship.
- Walk along the pond or beach together, holding hands.
- Read a great book together.
- Go on a picnic to an isolated place (field, beach, football field, parking lot).
- Watch your wedding video together.
- Enjoy a sunrise or sunset together.
- Laugh until it hurts, about a story from your past together.
- Listen to romantic music together, while sitting in the car.
- Share with one another your favorite wedding day memory.
- Write short love notes about what you are thankful for about your mate & lay them around the house & car
- Snuggle in front of the fire together.
- Watch your favorite movie together.
- Spend 2 hours together on the couch together w/no TV, phones, internet. Talk or don’t talk, just spend the time together reading to one another, talking or snuggling. No sex, just intimacy.
- Cook a meal together.
- Ask your mate to describe the perfect time with one another to get him/her in the mood & then do your best to create it!
- Help someone in need together.
- Have fun! Have a water fight…equal weapons; arsenal & access to water are a must. No competing, just fun.
- Build a wonderful new memory together.
- Pray over your mate (99% in our trainings say on their surveys that is what they want from their mate).
- Pack a romantic picnic of finger foods and feed to one another.
- Write a love letter or poem and give to your mate,
- Watch a romantic movie together … trust me on this guys!
- Go through your wedding album together,
- Ask your mate “What can I do this week to help you feel I love / respect you?” – And then do it!
- Put on your favorite song and dance together in your living room or out in the parking lot!
- Light candles in the living room and have a picnic. Share with your mate why you love them.
- Buy a used copy of “Love Talk Starters” on Amazon.com or Half Price Books and answer a few of the questions in the book together every night for 30 days
NOTE: Notice there are no kids, friends or family involved in these suggestions? These times to create and grow intimacy are just for the two of you together!
CHALLENGE:
Come up with your own list. You don’t always need money to do something together. Do your best at coming up with things that require little or no money.
HOMEWORK:
Do at least one of the above a week and watch as intimacy grows in your relationship!
SUGGESTION:
Want to do something to create intimacy that will really work & works FAST !!! Attend a Creating Intimacy & Respect Couples Training! For info or to register go to www.creatingintimacyandrespect.com
About the Author
David & Amy Ensminger are founders of Creating Intimacy & Respect which provides a 2.5-Day Couples Training and 1-Day Relationship Workshop's for Singles & Couples. For more information go to www.creatingintimacyandrespect.com
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