Tips for working through conflict

• Don't talk about things if either of you are tired, sick, or angry, stressed,
• Talk without name calling or attacking your mate
• Explain yourself, without defending, justifying or excusing yourself
• Listen more than you speak
• Value what you hear from your mate.
• Don’t talk about the past (remember the ‘bucket’ from our training!)
• Stick to the issue that caused the conflict
• If it gets heated, use the “code” word you learned in our training
• Are you running a tape?..."Who or What does this remind me of?"
• Refrain from judging your mate's motives or issue
• Use the ‘elephant’ we taught you to use to have a voice ... remember whoever put out the elephant is "A"
• Use the A vs. B dyads to help you listen and avoid arguing
• Avoid saying 'you always' and 'you never'
• NO abuse of any kind (physical, emotional, verbal, etc)

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