Focus on the right thing in your Relationship

• Talk w/them about realistic/unrealistic expectations (w/safety, like we taught you in our training)
• Shut OFF electronics & distractions & do what they want to do.
• Apologize when you do/say something that hurt/dishonored them (don’t forget the one you learned in our training)
• Discuss your hopes and dreams as a couple & then make plans to achieve them
• Work on understanding your mate’s point of view more than your own
• Accept your mate and their ideas for who they are – most likely they did that when you got married!
• INSPIRE change by changing how YOU act and react to your mate (and kids!)
• Initiate loving and respectful things for them (You can start with the “Love is a Verb” tool that we taught you in our training!)
• Appreciate your mate by saying “Thank You so much for...”, "I appreciate you doing that for me", "I can't tell you how much it means to me when you..."
• Exercise being quiet by power listening to your mate when they speak...even when you don't agree with them!
• ASK your mate if they want your opinion before giving it
• Do not demand your own way – be flexible in your ideas, thoughts, feelings
• Love always starts when you wake up in the morning with your actions, reactions and words
• If you are having a bad day, reassure your mate it isn't about them.
• Stop keeping “Score” of what your mate doesn't do for you instead start thinking about all the things you can do for them!
• Keep it short when you are talking with your mate…when you talk without taking a breath they don’t hear what’s important to you!
• Resolve an issue EVEN when it’s hard (use the tools we teach in our training!).

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