by Amy Ensminger
Please read this helpful email I received from Christine talking about her relationship with her husband, Bill.
"You know that snoring that just gets on your last nerve? You think you'll never get to sleep? Or he should go to another room? Well, in the last few months as Bill's tumors in his lungs grew & he just got sicker, his breathing became so loud it drove me crazy. I would nudge him, put a pillow over my head, even tried ear plugs to no avail. And one night I had the thought that I only had a short while to hear that breathing & I swear from that night on, it was kind of a lullaby to me, a soothing sound. I'm not kidding! Now the room is quiet as can be & I'd give anything for that loud breathing. Amy, keep helping those couples!! It's a great thing you & David are doing."
Bill died January 7, 2012. This sobering message Christine asked me to share with other couples came from a conversation she & I were having about couples who argue, fight, separate & divorce over the annoying, hurtful, upsetting & maybe unloving things their mate does. She wanted me to help you understand in a very real way that these things compared to the deafening silence when your mate is gone, can be worked out when you try. I'm thankful to her for presenting in a very personal way the pain of loss, with no regrets. To me, it also highlights the pride of fighting, shutting down or separating/divorcing over the selfish things that when we make the effort (which may require some dedicated & hard work), can be different! We simply just have to ask for help on how to make that happen. And sometimes we have to ask for help, over & over again, until we experience love & respect in our relationships.
The question I have for you is this ...What is it that you would give anything to have when your mate is gone? Focus on that good while you work on the rest.
Thank you Christine for your vulnerability & support in helping us help others. Your testimony & support will hopefully encourage couples to get help if they need it by attending Creating Intimacy & Respect Couples Training.
SUGGESTION:
Please share or forward this touching message from Christine. You never know who you will help when you do...maybe even yourself!
HOMEWORK:
- Communication & Conflict
- Identifying & stopping your sabotaging behaviors
- Forgiving yourself & others & Letting Go
- Know exactly what & how you & your mate need to feel loved & respected
- Using your Relationship Tools
If you are in a pre-marital, marital or crisis relationship and don't know how to make these things happen in your relationship to experience love & respect attend (OR refresh to deepen your understanding) our next couples training. If not now, when?
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About the Author
David & Amy Ensminger are founders of Creating Intimacy & Respect which provides a 2.5-Day Couples Training and 1-Day Relationship Workshop's for Singles & Couples. For more information go to www.creatingintimacyandrespect.com
by Amy Ensminger
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