How to Resolve Conflict in Your Relationship

by Amy Ensminger

Common Areas of Conflict in a Relationship:

· Sabotaging attitudes, behaviors & habits

· Expectations

· Differing interests or hobbies

· Excessive time away from mate/family for hobbies, job

· Finances

· How to raise children & step-children

· Finances

· In-laws

· Friendships & family

· Dishonesty

· Sex

· Addictions

· Unforgiveness

· Independent living

· Infidelity

· Not feeling heard

· Disrespectfulness

· Religion

· Boundaries being crossed

Rules for Fighting Fair in your Relationship:

1. First, realize EVERY couple has conflict

2. Hear to how your mate feels NOT how you are feeling

3. Stay Calm

4. Listen and Speak in one another's love language

5. Address One Conflict at a Time

6. Avoid Accusations of your mate or others

7. Keep it between you. No parents, friends or kids need to be brought into your issues

8. Be specific about the problem so your mate understands your issue

9. Don't hit below the belt

10. Don't stockpile your resentment or hurt and address problems as they arise

Guidelines for Damage Control:

· Be humble

· Don't defend, excuse, blame or justify your actions or reactions

· Remind your mate that you are on the same team (for some mates you might need to remind them you are not leaving them)

· Commit to Resolution and reconciliation

· Apologize & Forgive

· Attend our couples training to learn the tools on how to recognize your specific areas of conflict, learn rules for fighting fair & how to restore the relationship from damage done.

· Get involved in a Men's or Women's group for support & accountability

· If needed, seek the help of a counselor or minister

Suggestion:

To learn tools on how to communicate and feel heard, fight fair & restore your relationship attend our next Creating Intimacy & Respect Couples Training. For info, cost, discounts & testimonies go to www.creatingintimacyandrespect.com. If not now, when?

Who is the couples training for:

Creating Intimacy & Respect Couples Training is men and women couples who are in a committed, engaged, married, separated & divorced relationship and want to create love, respect, hope & joy in their relationship. It is also for those who have already attended the training and want to refresh the training to deepen your understanding of the tools.

"My best friend and I are now husband and wife. We now have the tools for better

communication and bringing down the walls between us." ~ married

About the Author

David & Amy Ensminger are founders of Creating Intimacy & Respect which provides a 2.5-Day Couples Training and 1-Day Relationship Workshop's for Singles & Couples.  For more information go to www.creatingintimacyandrespect.com